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4 Parts to Career Development in High School
4 Parts to Career Development in High School It is important to start career development planning in high school. Too many students only start thinking about their careers at the end of their final year of school. This often results in rushed and badly informed...
How Mindfulness Affects the Brain
There is more and more research suggesting the powerful affect of mindfulness practice on cognitive and emotional coping. Mindfulness practices encourage people to use their senses and brains attention to focus on the here and now. These practices are effective in...
Take a Mindful Moment
Children need to be taught how to practice mindfulness. One of the best of ways teaching and learning mindfulness is by engaging the here and now together, using different techniques. These moments don’t need to be long or complicated. Start simple, and work your way...
Mindfulness Practices for Children
In an age of instant gratification, the joy and benefit of slowing the world down is becoming more and more apparent. Anxiety and depression is on the increase amongst adults and children. Although there are various contributing factors to this, a fast-paced lifestyle...
Breathing with Children
Taking manual control of our breathing can have various physical and emotional benefits. Fresh breath is good for our body. Taking long, even breathes can also be be good for clear thinking, managing big feelings and making healthy choices. Like all fire drills, we...
Kindness and forgiveness with Sanele May
Kindness and forgiveness: we speak with Fields Hill truck driver Sanele May In this week’s KindnessCan podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell have an exclusive interview with Fields Hill truck driver Sanele May. This follows his recent release from Umzinto...
Kindness in your career journey
KindnessCan: Career Journey This week, Jane and Paul talk about how to be kind when starting your employment journey. Whether you're starting your job hunt or going into a new job, keeping your head above water can sometimes feel like a challenge. Managing your...
Setting kind goals for a brand new year
New year, new kind goals. This week Join Jane and Paul as they talk about bringing the old you into the new year. An inspiring, real and balanced take on setting kind goals and celebrating ourselves in 2020. We could all be a little bit in kinder in the way we talk...
KindnessCan: Dealing with loss this festive season
Dealing with loss during the festive season This week Jane and Paul talk about dealing with loss at this family-orientated time of the year. It can be especially hard having to face the holidays without a special person in your life. Dealing with the firsts - the...
Kindness over the holidays
Summer Holiday Kindness In this episode of KindnessCan, Jane and Paul talk about the importance of being kind this holiday season. It's a reminder to you that your greatest gift is you and your love and attention for others. Worry less about the fancy gifts and focus...
Kindness following a tragic accident
Kindness on the journey of healing This week, Jane and Paul spend time talking with Jaci Mun-Gavin almost one year after daughter, Kiara's horrific head injury in a freak accident in Durban North on Christmas Eve. The aspirant ballet dancer needed brain surgery and...
Kindness in the Car
Kindness while travelling on the roads As South Africans, we spend a lot of time in cars. So often, they become places of stress, frustration and unkindness. But, they can be great places for self-reflection and sharing with the people in our lives. This week, Jane...
Kindness for those who are leaving SA or staying
Staying or Going Emigration stories are once again coming up between friends, family members and colleagues. There seems to have been a new wave of people opting to leave South Africa, for whatever reason, and so in this week's podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul...
Kindness when winning or losing
Win or Lose On the back of the Boks amazing Rugby World Cup win, Jane and Paul talk about kindness when winning and losing. This is an excellent listen for parents, and anyone for that matter, navigating the highs and lows on either side of victory. This episode...
Kindness in Sport – with rugby legend Pat Lambie
Showing gratitude to others This week Jane and Paul are talking kindness in sport with Springbok Rugby legend Pat Lambie. Pat shares some of his stories about rugby, life, life after rugby and most all - kindness. It’s amazing the places kindness turns up, and the...
Showing gratitude to others
Showing gratitude to others Although kindness is free and accessible, it’s not always easy to put into practice. In the latest episode, Jane and Paul talk about the importance of expressing gratitude to others in order to grow and develop kinder relationships with...
Kindness when your kids leave home
Kindness when your kids leave home Watching a child leave home for the first time is like watching a lifetime of emotions flash before your eyes. Join Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell as they talk about the experience of having a child leave home for the first...
Kindness from the community
Kindness from the community in the face of tragedy In July this year, the Durban home of actors / comedians Lisa Bobbert and Aaron McIlroy was gutted by a devastating fire. In today's KindnessCan podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell talk to Lisa...
KindnessCan: Kindness when co-parenting
Kindness when co-parenting Parenting is a wonderfully tough job. Doing it with another person can be such a relief and joy. It can also be a point of conflict. In this episode of KindnessCan, Jane and Paul talk about co-parenting with kindness. Source: East Coast...
KindnessCan: Kindness after a breakup
Kindness after a breakup Going through a break-up is never easy. There are often a lot of hard thoughts and feelings. It's important that we slow this moment down and give ourselves the chance to process and react to these thoughts and feelings in the best and kindest...
KindnessCan: Kindness with Colleagues
Kindness with our work colleagues If most of us are spending as much as 80% of our lives at work, the people we work with are a big part of lives. These relationships can have a big impact on the way we think, feel and act. These experiences are the stories, feelings...
KindnessCan: Kindness with Partners
Kindness with Our Partners Over time, we can all start to take our special relationship for granted. All the little and big things that we do for each other become lost in a feeling of routine and amongst all the business of life. We start to give the best of...
KindnessCan: Kindness with Kids
Kindness with our Kids It’s not always possible to be kind to our children all of the time. Life is demanding and busy, and there are moments when they seem to bring out the worst in us. We are impatient and short, unavailable and limited by our own shortfalls as a...
KindnessCan: Kindness to Self
Episode 1: Kindness to Self Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell talk about being kinder to ourselves in this episode. Self-Talk is the conversations that we have with ourselves. They become the basis of our thoughts. The more we have these thoughts the more we believe...
Reflections on a Retreat in the Karoo
There is something magical in the Karoo. As you walk out of Prince Albert and into the Groot Karoo, there is a breathtaking sense of quiet and space. The dramatic landscape - both overwhelming and alluring - draws you deeper. I like to think that my Mindfulness and...
Need Some Rest and Restoration?
A quarter into the year and you might already be feeling the need to rest and restore. Let us take you on a Restorative Journey. Plug in your earphones.
Meditation in the Workplace
Meditation has become an important Corporate Tool, with several powerful businesses encouraging employees to meditate at work. The obvious benefit of this is calmer, more focused employees. The spin-off of this is seemingly endless though-improved employee health and...
Start with the End in Mind
"A goal without a plan is just a wish"
South African Summer Holiday
The South African Summer is hard to forget. As employees turn in their swimsuits for laptops, employers often find it hard to get staff into the right head space. Here are some tips to get the team back in the game. 1. Make the New Year Feel Like a Celebration Send...
Boston College Newcastle
A big thank you from all of us at Boston! "Boston Newcastle attended a Power Breakfast facilitated by Paul Bushell and hosted at Olive Manor Guesthouse. Overall it was a phenomenal experience! A beautiful garden setting, delicious meals and good company. The “START...
16 Days of Activism
16 Days of Activism (25 November - 10 December) has become an annual moment to reflect on Gender Equality in South Africa. Despite having one of the most progressive Constitutions in the world - how far have we really come with Gender Equality in the workplace?...
Find Your Balance
"Paul Bushell runs a private psychology practice in Kloof and uMhlanga, helping people to understand their thoughts and feelings to improve behaviour and performance." - The Crest I know that asking for help can be difficult. I offer a non-judging, confidential...
St Mary’s DSG
"In Grade 11, pupils go away on a leadership camp for 4 days in the third term. Leadership and their role and vision as Grade 12 pupils are discussed." "This time away also provides a wonderful opportunity for the girls to bond. This year we allocated a day in the...